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The Honest Truth About Why Kids Lie

The Honest Truth About Why Kids Lie

I regularly receive calls from concerned parents because their child is lying.   The reason: ALL kids do it!  But all lying isn’t the same and all “lies” aren’t even lies. 

Time Outs: Friend or Foe?

Time Outs: Friend or Foe?

Using Timeouts is a hot and touchy topic!  Most parents tell me it is not effective and is used in a heated moment when they don't know what else to do.  That is why I want to share with you new and better ways to use timeouts in your parenting.  I was interviewed a while back for a piece in ParentMap Magazine on this topic and also appeared on Fox News in Seattle to answer questions about when, why and how we use timeouts in our parenting. I wanted to make sure I got all of your questions answered about timeouts so that you too can use this intervention more effectively and respectfully.

Managing screens, devices and apps... oh my!

Managing screens, devices and apps... oh my!

One of the biggest challenges for parents these days is managing their children’s use of electronic devices.  Devices are the source of many power struggles for modern families. As a parent or caregiver, it’s your responsibility to set limits. Every family’s values and schedules are different, so limits on devices look different from one family to another.

Hey Warrior Tips to Helping Your Anxious Child

Hey Warrior Tips to Helping Your Anxious Child

I have received numerous emails and messages over the years from parents concerned about their child’s anxious behavior.  That is why I interviewed Karen Young of Hey Sigmund at the end of April.  Many of you missed the live interview so I wanted to recap for you some of the highlights.

Bedtime Routines: Finding Mindful Moments at the End of Each Day

Bedtime Routines: Finding Mindful Moments at the End of Each Day

Most parents don’t think of bedtime as an opportunity to connect with their child. Typically, we as parents associate bedtime with a frenzied battle zone in which we are trying to get our child to cooperate and complete tasks such as taking a bath, brushing their teeth, or putting on jammies. In order to make the most of this window of time, I suggest two things:

Family Conversations To Make The Most Out Of The Presidential Election

Family Conversations To Make The Most Out Of The Presidential Election

The election season is in full swing, and discussion about the various candidates permeates our homes and schools. An election year is a wonderful time to teach children about the electoral process and issues being debated, such as immigration, terrorism, and healthcare. But the media and most voters also spend a lot of time and energy debating the character of the candidates, their behavior, and how they represent themselves, so the election process also presents parents with a plethora of unique opportunities to teach core social-emotional skills, such as empathy, emotion management, and social problem-solving while addressing topics such as accepting differences, dealing with gossip, bullying, and name-calling.

From Eating to Excreting: Three Tips to Avoid Power Struggles

From Eating to Excreting: Three Tips to Avoid Power Struggles

All humans struggle for power and control over their own lives and young children are no different!  Ideally we want our kids to do what we need them to without us having to do anything more than merely ask. Let's not kid ourselves, that is just not going to happen most of the time. "I said so" or "you have to" is about us asserting our power over them and can feel disrespectful to the child.  

Our children have little to no control over much of their daily lives.  That is why most power struggles revolve around their physical self or body.

Understanding & Solutions To Sassy Bossy Back Talk

Understanding & Solutions To Sassy  Bossy Back Talk

The smile that lights up your day; that laugh that warms you up with joy and optimism; the ability to show you the world through innocent eyes: kids can be such amazing parts of our lives with their constant ability to learn and grow, teaching us how to see the big picture and to love someone so much it hurts.

And then they learn the word “No.”

 

Three Proven Childproof Parenting Tools to Inviting Cooperation

Three Proven Childproof Parenting Tools to Inviting Cooperation

All humans struggle for power and control over their own lives and young children are no different! Ideally, we want our kids to do what we need them to do without us doing anything more than merely ask. Let's not kids ourselves; that is just not going to happen most of the time. "I said so"  or "you have to" is about us asserting our power over them and can feel disrespectful to the child. 

Five Effective Ways to Respond to Tantrums, Meltdowns, and Fits

Five Effective Ways to Respond to Tantrums, Meltdowns, and Fits

Do you wish your preschooler or toddler would JUST STOP WHINING? That your child  would go to bed maybe the fourth time she’s asked rather than the 24th? That your children would stop fighting, yelling, tormenting each other, making outlandish demands, or otherwise acting outrageously?  If only!